BION, they were both 17 when they got pregnant, and married. Nobody expected it to last, but they're still going strong 3 Lonely older women ready love chatting dating decades later. The in bed thing, I have mixed feelings about that. Yes, to nursing, especially in those first months. But in no time, they realize they're not alone in the room. The comes to expect immediate comfort and attention. In the dentist's office this morning, I saw a Reader's Digest with on the cover. Beside her, it read, "Everything you do, you should do for your." I smell bullshit! don't get me wrong, I would die for my, or for my grandkids, if need be. But living our lives FOR, or THROUGH, our? No. At what point do we reach the age where we are no longer the center of the universe? How well do adapt to school, if during the first 5 years of their lives, they've become conditioned to believe everything and everyone is all about them? So IMO, you do your no favors in giving up on intimacy for the sake of the. And even if it takes a few nights for the to begin self-soothing, it's an important task s/he needs to learn. What if she decided to take a job? I used to do day care, and I'm telling you, I would not accept an infant into my home if I was expected to hold and coddle it around the clock. It's smothering. We all need more air than that, including the (IMO).